I have heard this so many times from women…
I don’t want to buy a house until I get married.
When I ask why…
The reason is usually centered around a man not wanting to move into a woman’s house.
Thoughts like this completely disregard all other options with this house, besides future husbae moving in…
Like renting out the house.
Or even selling it.
Or using it as a vacation home.
All reasonable options get tossed aside because we need to make a man comfortable.
Of course…
comments on social media from men shaming women don’t help.
There never fails to be at least ONE comment threatening that a woman will be single forever when a woman posts about monetary success.
Like David’s comment on a video I posted sharing how I bought two houses, paid one off, and quit my 9-5 without a husband.
Everyone is entitled to define the exact type of person they want to be with. But somehow the narrative is men make the rules and women need to just conform.
Let’s take a few steps back and ask this…
Do you even want the man that is going to penalize you for hustling and working your butt off to figure out your own money situation?
As a woman, it’s not your job to lower yourself or be less ambitious to make an insecure man happy.
You set your standards on who you want to be with.
And unless you WANT to be with a man that only wants broke women, please don’t let these comments on these internet streets affect your bag.
Sis, fight the urge to dim your light!
Don’t let these internet trolls gaslight you into thinking you are doing something wrong by having your money on point.
I for one think it’s a blessing that having your shit together repels the exact man you DO NOT want around you.
But your subconscious is going to whisper to you to play it safe.
It’s going to tell you to do the comfortable thing to protect you…
But girl…
You have to win the battle!
Don’t let your subconscious trick you into NOT doing what you want to do because you are waiting for a man…
Use logic instead.
Option ONE: Reasons to buy a house BEFORE you are married:
✔️ Save thousands in rent
✔️ Build Equity in your home
✔️ Reduce Taxable Income
✔️ Paint your walls whatever damn color you want
✔️ Repel the Davids from your dating pool
Option TWO: Reasons to wait and buy a house AFTER you are married:
🥴 Accidentally marry a David
✔️ potentially more buying power because of two incomes
If finances aren’t an issue, I’ll take option 1, please!
Dodge that David bullet and secure a cushy financial future in one smooth move.
Let’s also not forget that 50% of marriages end in divorce.
And what if you never get married???!
Are we going to ignore all that to make the Davids of the world comfortable and wait to get married to get a piece of the American real estate pie?
It’s a NO for me. 🙅🏽♀️
What do you think? Do you agree with David?
Does having your money together reduce your chance of getting married?
